Attractive Quality of a Guy

We have a 2-hour lunch today, so we have quite a long chat.

2 of us were 'questioning' another colleague about her boyfriend. Apparently, they got attached last year but we only heard about her attachment recently. We asked about how they met and what she found attractive in him. My other married colleague also chipped in with what she liked about her husband. We were chatting and laughing loudly in the staff cafeteria, totally oblivious to any stares coming from neighouring tables.

The single-but-attached colleague mentioned that she was attracted to the gentlemanliness of her boyfriend. When she was with him, she felt comfortable and felt taken care of. The married colleague and I were full of envy and were very happy for her.

Indeed, all of us concurred that one of the most attractive quality of guys which we observed to be missing from many nowadays is that of gentlemanliness. For instance,

• Some guys would not hold the door for just another second for you even though we were already running quickly on our heels. The door practically slammed into our faces.
• Once, a guy saw me running towards the lift door, yet he continued to press the "close" button and refused to make any eye contact.
• The bill arrived after a meal (be it a group gathering or individual dates), the guy refused to pick up the tab. We, ladies, definitely were not trying to be free loaders. If it were an expensive meal, more often than not, most ladies would offer to go Dutch. If not, we could always pay for the drinks subsequently. The shying away from paying first by the guys disappointed us.
• When we went on dates with guys in places where self-service was required, not many have offered to order or buy the food for us.
• We are not even asking for guys to open car doors for us, and not even closing the car door for us. I must confess I have not encountered such gentleman behaviour yet. I have to admit waiting for the guy to open car door for us may be asking too much and it can be a total waste of time. Yet, it is always flattering if there is such behaviour.

Sometimes it is such small gestures that make us feel 'taken care of'. Although we are getting more independent, we still like to feel taken care of? In many ways, we may still be old-fashioned and may equate such gentlemanly behaviour to the guy's sincerity.

We are always more than happy to be pampered. :-)